You probably thought I was going to tell you to dress sharp and meet her at her doorstep with flowers. Well… you’re wrong, unless you’ve already been flirting with her (or at least talked to her once), she’ll just think you’re super weird. You want to come across as a cool guy that she’ll be lucky to date and I know just how to help you.
Build Up Your Social Life
Your goal should be to be an interesting and cool guy. Girls will flock themselves to you just because of that. It’s important to understand that you can have everything going for you on the exterior, but if you have no substance, she’ll get bored and leave.
The first and most important thing that you can do is to always work on yourself first. Make sure you build an interesting life full of hobbies and passions and the rest will just fall into place.
Never wear something too over the top! You don’t want to scare her, overpower her, or overdress her because you’ll just make her feel uncomfortable. All you have to do is make sure you’re in style and that your clothes fit right.
Stick to shorts, jeans, or chinos for your bottoms and for tops stick to t-shirts, cotton casual button down, or Polos. When it comes to jewelry, never wear something too feminine. Make sure it’s masculine and that it will actually turn women on.
The Benjamin Franklin Effect
I recently read an article that talked about a psychological phenomenon called “The Benjamin Franklin Effect”. It explains why people will tend to like you more after they’ve done a favor for you. The reason is that the mind has trouble reconciling the fact that they went through the trouble of doing you a favor, even though they don’t actually like you, thus, they will end up liking you.
Next time you see the girl you like, ask her for a small favor. If she does it, then you’re already off to a good start. Remember that it can be something as small as asking to borrow a pencil or asking for a piece of gum.
Start Building Up the Relationship
Once you have broken the ice and have talked to the girl you’re interested in, start building the relationship with her. If you asked her to do you a favor and she did it, you know she likes you at least a little bit. Take this time to impress her, talk to her every day so that you can make your intentions clear. This is very important, this is a common pitfall that a lot of guys fall into. When you are trying to impress a girl you need to make your intentions clear so that you don’t end up in the friend-zone.
Remember that it’s important to think before you speak, so you don’t stumble and make a fool of yourself. Go ahead and make sure that you slip in at least one sincere compliment; it will signal to her that you want something more intimate than a friendship.
Once you’ve hit that peak in your relationship, where you’ve had a streak of flirty texts (or in person) go M.I.A. for a couple of days. It may sound a bit childish but it will be the last nail in the coffin to impress her and make her like you. Women love attention and when you don’t make yourself constantly available to her, it will make her want you more. This will make you seem more interesting to her than a guy who is always available to her.